In the course of any given day, being as I work in a corporate environment, I have to be very careful of what I say. My desk is in a open area, and like most people in today's working world, I work in a cubicle. Well for people who know me on a more personal level than just a blog post, they know that I have this innate ability to say things at times when they may not really be appropriate. When I am at work however I find that I don’t really have that problem as much because I tend to look at my audience much closer than I normally would before speaking.

Maybe this comes with age and despite my efforts to not gain any, maybe I am picking up some form of wisdom. In that I don’t try to say things that will hurt someone. Most of us don’t, but I find that people will say something to another person, not meaning to hurt, but do it in the same because they didn’t really think about the words they say before they speak them. If I were to relate this to a piece of spell work most who practice magick would pick up on what I am saying immediately. If I want my spell work to be effective, I know that I need to be specific as to what I do and say as those words and actions are what create the magick. If we all looked at the words and conversations that we had with people in the same way, I know things would be carefully thought out before they were said.

We all have any number of instances during our daily lives where we may want to say something just to get a little dig into another person. Maybe we do it because we are insecure about ourselves in some way so we say things to another person that we see as strong in a particular area that we feel we are lacking in. What ever the reason is, it is the wrong reason. We should, in my view , especially because we walk a path of an open mind, strive to not say hurtful things even if they weren't meant to be. I know from many a personal experience that just because I think something is funny or cute that it probably isn't with a lot of other people. 

I also know from personal experience that if I want people to take me seriously then I have to be willing to look at them in the same fashion. I in the least have to put on an outward show that I think a person is great whether I really think that or not. By doing that I create the impression and paint the picture that will allow other people to see me as someone that is thoughtful.  I have on occasion said things to people that I thought was a good idea at the time or didn’t think was that big of a deal, only to find out later that I had seriously hurt that persons feelings. Never was that my intent, but the results are the same as if I had.

So do yourself a favor, think before you speak. Think about things that you may have said to people in the recent past and see if what you said had any ramification on their behavior in a fashion other than what you intended. Also realize, like I have about myself, that all the insecurities that you try to pretend you don’t have get magnified by 1000 times when you say things that hurt people. Especially the ones you care about.

Love you all, Blessed Be.