So there are a few things that are really setting in at the moment that I am having to deal with. None of them are things that we ever really want to, but things that we must all the same as human beings. The part that I struggle with is keeping the right frame of reference and mind set. This is something that requires daily effort and I am going to go over a couple of things.

Communication Communication Communication

This is a key point in the life of everyone on the planet. I have been married for over 14 years. Other than a very few short periods of time, we have been together daily, for over 15 years now. I am still to this day learning how to communicate with my wife. We're best friends, I love her tremendously. But as we have each changed over the years, our communication has changed and I think that is perfectly normal.

So with that in mind, how can I expect myself or anyone else for that matter, to be able to effectively communicate with other people. I am in a line of work that requires me to talk with people from all across the spectrum. I enjoy that part of my job. But the reality of that is that I only have to communicate with them on a certain level. I have to deal with their technical issues and I have to be able to communicate in a way that makes a non technical person understand what I am talking about.

One of the things that I struggle with in my daily communication with people and I think this is where we all need some work is preconceived notions. Just because I have dealt with a specific issue before does not mean that it is always going to be the exact same. Nor should my approach be the same, especially when dealing with people issues. So if your computer screen wont turn on, there is a basic approach that would be taken. Check the power cables, make sure the surge protector is turned on, make sure the power button has been pressed and typically it will work unless the thing is totally fried. With people however the problems are quite different and have to be addressed differently.

Just because I have dealt with something in the past, does not mean that the approach that was needed or that the circumstances are the same with the new occurrence of this issue. Lets take the thought that you have a child that wont do their homework. After investigating you find out that this child is just being lazy. Well lets say 2 years later another child isn't doing their homework either. Would you assume that the 2nd child is also lazy, or would you find out the particulars of why that child also isn't doing their homework? You would investigate of course and get to the bottom of the situation. When you do that you may discover that the issue isn't laziness but it is a child who is struggling in that subject and cant do the work.

The point here being, past experience is just that, in the past. Yes you can use that for some knowledge on how to deal with issues that present themselves to you in the present. However, don’t allow yourself to become judgmental on anything that seems to resemble what you have worked with in the past.

Topic 2:  When it rains it pours

How often do you feel like you are on track and doing the right thing? You know something in your heart and you know that it is good. Only to have something new and exciting, in the bad way, come and knock the wind out of your sails.

It is really amazing how much health related issues can take a toll on you and your loved ones. It is quite possibly the single most strenuous and draining thing in the world, to deal with health issues. I have been working with a family member on getting some health issues resolved after years of dealing with them. We finally get to the right Doctor and the prognosis is WAY better than we thought. Treatments are going forward and the results have already been very good. It was beginning to feel like things we going to get back to normal in a VERY short amount of time.

Then we got the new information. The new information is something that has some scary potential to it and though treatment is fairly straight forward, it is a very scary prospect. We were going down this road of physical and emotional well being only to have the rug pulled out from under us. Sometimes I wonder how it is that we are supposed to deal with things when it feels like there is so much being thrown at us.

I try to keep in mind that a positive outlook on life directly effects the outcome of almost everything. But sometimes its hard being the one that has to do that all the time. Sometimes I don’t feel like I have someone to be the brace to hold me up when I have something to deal with. Sometimes I don’t have it in me to be the strong one, the brave one, and I don’t know how to deal with that always. I try to take the approach that this is temporary and that it will pass on its own soon enough and things will get better. But other times I don’t know if I can keep telling myself that it will be better. I try, I really truly do. But it doesn’t always work.

Anyway this was a long post. I hope it finds you all well. Keep your chins up. I am working on mine.

Blessed be.